VULNERABILITY: Embracing openness for deeper connections

Vulnerability is critical for satisfying the human need to build connections and maintain close relationships. Through allowing ourselves to be vulnerable, we can support personal growth and deepen our connections.

Brene Brown, the acclaimed researcher and author, beautifully captures its essence when she says, "Vulnerability is not winning or losing; it's having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome."

Let’s embark on a journey of self-discovery and connection as we delve into the transformative power of vulnerability.

Understanding Vulnerability

To embrace vulnerability is to step into the raw authenticity of our being. It's a testament to our strength, not a sign of weakness. Audre Lorde, the influential feminist poet, reminds us that "When I dare to be powerful, to use my strength in the service of my vision, then it becomes less and less important whether I am afraid." Vulnerability is the gateway to our power, a strength that expands when we allow ourselves to be seen.

Bell Hooks, another trailblazing author, encourages us to view vulnerability as a form of resistance. She says, "To live our lives based on the principles of a love ethic (showing care, respect, knowledge, integrity, and the will to cooperate), we have to be courageous if we are to be vulnerable." Vulnerability becomes an act of defiance against a world that often expects us to be invulnerable.

The Power of Vulnerability in Connection

Bringing this concept into everyday life can be challenging. It can be difficult to know when and how to initiate the kind of conversations that foster closeness and build trust. This is where the vision of the WeShare Connection Cards came to life. The premise of the game is designed to deepen connections and foster authentic conversations, presenting an opportunity to embrace vulnerability.

Imagine sitting with a group of people, and you’ve all gathered to play. Choosing to be vulnerable in this setting is like opening a door to your true self, saying, "Here I am, with my joys and fears, ready to connect." As the game progresses, each participant, inspired by vulnerability, shares more authentically. It's not about winning or losing; it's about the courage to be seen and heard. However, the truth of the matter is that if you’ve chosen to be vulnerable and speak honestly from the heart, you’ve already won by offering a genuine connection.

The Outcome of Vulnerability: A Profound Connection

While road testing the WeShare cards, something incredible happened, and it happened every time. After the initial round where everyone had a turn in responding, there would be that one person who would be the first to open up and share something personal. That vulnerability transformed the atmosphere—everyone in the room recognized the courage, and it resonated with each participant. The outcome was profound; each participant shared deeper, more personally, about their experiences, perceptions, and dreams. 

One person’s vulnerability became the catalyst for a profound connection, creating a space where authenticity felt like a breath of fresh air.

Incorporating Vulnerability into Daily Life

How can we bring the magic of vulnerability into our daily lives, beyond game nights? Here are three wise women who have something to say on the matter:

1. Reflect on Your Strengths: Audre Lorde encourages us to embrace vulnerability as a form of power. Reflect on your strengths, acknowledge your fears, and recognize that being vulnerable is a courageous act.

2. Practice a Love Ethic: Bell Hooks invites us to live based on a love ethic. Extend care, respect, knowledge, integrity, and cooperation to yourself and others. Vulnerability thrives in an environment of love and acceptance.

3. Acknowledge your courage: According to Glennon Doyle, vulnerability is the greatest measure of courage. Embrace the uncertainty, show up authentically, and let your courage shine through.

Our Journey of Vulnerability

We all aim to live our best lives and grow into our best selves. That is a quest we are on together. So, I invite you to embrace vulnerability into your journey, and together we can celebrate the strength found in being seen, heard, and, above all, connected.